Negativity is a poison that can ruin a person and keep you from meeting your career goals. Use these 5 tips to overcome negativity.
- Jump off the Bandwagon: That crowd at the water cooler or huddled around the coffee machine can be worse than a bully in the school yard. It just takes one negative big mouth to bring down an entire team. Most people find it easier to jump on the bandwagon than they do to say “Stop the ride, I want off”. When you are faced with a negative person determined to bring the rest of the group down with them use the same approach you would to bullying: walk away. Getting caught up in negative gossip, boss bashing and company poo pooing will do nothing but bring you down and make you look bad in the eyes of the people who can help you move forward.
- Shake off the Nay Sayers: Most life coaches would agree that having negative people in your life is ill advised. Sometimes it takes a while to catch on that someone is a real downer. They might seem funny or insightful at first. However if you find you are with someone who is always complaining and can never seem to find anything good to say it is in your best interest to slowly weed them out of your life.
- Remain Positive: You might feel like some kind of brown noser or teacher’s pet trying to remain positive when everyone else around you is dissing the boss, but the truth is the only way to over come negativity is to stay positive. Try to offer positive comments in the midst of disdain. You will feel better and you might also help others get out of their blue funk.
- Stay Focused: Being able to remain focused on your goals is another way to overcome negativity. Knowing why you are doing something and what you need to do to meet your goals will help you ignore the negativity of those around you.
- Get Constructive: Negative thoughts are destructive and can undermine your goals. You need constructive thoughts to help build you up and give you confidence. As well constructive criticism might be misconstrued as negativity when in fact it is designed to improve your performance. Be open to those who might be offering sound advice and instead of hearing you aren’t good enough, hear what will make you better.
Overcoming negativity will help you stay motivated and find success.
Doug Dvorak is a motivational speaker and specialist available for conferences, events and seminars.
It is common for people to hit a negative slump. Learn 3 secrets to overcome negativity and boost your motivational levels. The key is to keep from letting the negativity take over your life. When life seems like it is a constant up-hill battle, giving up may seem like the only solution. In reality, you can take control of negative thoughts, feelings and behaviors. This includes, negative habits that have become second nature. You may not even realize you have negative habits until you examine your life and thought process.
- Understand and Identify Negative Habits and Emotions
Before you can do anything about a negative habit or emotion you must be able to identify them. They can be behaviors that are engaged in every day. Negative habits and behavior can damage careers and personal lives. Such habits include being late to engagements and meetings, gossiping, being defensive, engaging in personal sabotage, seeking too much attention, making rash choices, resisting change, and being a perfectionist. Some of these habits can be good given the context in which they are performed. Being aware of these habits requires being aware of your cognitive script, otherwise known as the automatic thoughts that enter your brain during many different types of situations. An unconscious thought is ingrained through past experiences, so it can be difficult to catch yourself when engaging in a deeply rooted behavior. Breaking negative habits and curtailing negative emotions takes time. It can take up to two months to ‘re-train’ your brain to overcome negative emotions, and change all depends on the behavior of the person.
- Become Conscious and Create a Plan
When a conscious plan is created, it can get you started in overcoming negative emotions and boost your motivation. Saying that you are going to change a particular bad habit is not enough. A concrete plan is needed in order to start changing negative habits. Set personal goals for yourself and review your progress often while working on the worst habits first. Your plan should include milestones and prompts to help remind yourself what you are trying to achieve. Keeping an action program or to-do list as a constant reminder of what you wish to achieve is a good start.
- Develop Self-Awareness and Self-Discipline
In order to fully change negative emotions and eventually habits you must become self-vigilant. Watch yourself for back-sliding and remind yourself of the reasons you wish to break a negative habit or cycle and the long term benefits of breaking that habit. This takes self-discipline, willpower, self-awareness, and honesty. Be persistent and firm with yourself so you can change the way you view life and become a happier person.
Doug Dvorak gives self-motivating seminars for people around the world. You can learn more secrets to overcoming negative emotions and boosting your motivational levels by attending one of his speaking engagements.